Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Shallow Gal or Is She

Song of the day: You Look Good to Me by Cherelle

Sometimes me and my friends talk about how shallow some men seem to be; but in reality, we can be just as shallow. One friend, who will remain anonymous, said recently that we would probably never meet the guy she's dating because he's hard on the eyes. I was like, "Girl, that's so mean." She explained that he was good to her, but she couldn't allow herself to get physical with him because he was not attractive to her at all. My first question to her was--why did you start dating him then? Now poor dude is fascinated with my friend and yes, she'll probably break his heart after he spends more of his money on her. Is she wrong? Yes, because she shouldn't use him like that.

I've given guys my number that I wasn't really attracted to at first, but after getting to know them, I enjoyed their company. I rarely bring guys around my friends or family anyway, unless we're in a committed relationship--i.e., I think I'm in love, so them not looking like a GQ model has never phased me. But if I were to be honest, I have to admit, after an ugly dude (or two) tried to play me, I now only date men I find somewhat attractive. Of course there has to be other things besides his looks, but --well I'm just saying. It doesn't make me shallow--just being real.

There's nothing wrong with wanting the total package. Besides, what looks good to me, might not look good to you--so what if I have my preferences; so do you.

Are we too judgmental when it comes to looks?

Confession #16 - There does have to be something attractive about the guy; whether it be his entire package; his eyes, body, smile, or face.

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Dating Don'ts

Couple having dinner togetherSong of the day: Eve (featuring Alicia Keys) - Gangsta Lovin'

Dating can be fun and when you meet a person you're really interested in, you really want things to go perfect. Here are a few dating don'ts:

  • Don't talk about your Ex. Unless, the other person asks you about your ex, do not spend the entire date talking about problems you and your ex encountered. I have a friend who will remain anonymous who complained about the guy talking about a woman he once dated that lived in Europe the entire time they sat around the dinner table.
  • Don't do all of the talking. How many times have you been out with someone and they go on and on about themselves and never let you get a word in edge wise. Give the other person time to talk. Listening is just as important as talking.
  • Ladies, don't pay for the first date. I know we're in a new dating age, but if a man is interested in you, he will part with his hard earned money.
  • Don't give it up too soon. I say this because good sex can cloud your judgment. You might think he's the best thing since sliced bread, but he's really not. You're only thinking he is because he knows how to hit your g-spot.
  • Don't start something, you're not willing to put up with later. That means no faking. No pretending like you like something just to get the person and then do a 360 once you're in a relationship. To thine self be true always. Don't settle for something that you know you don't like because if you do, you'll find yourself caught up in a relationship, you really don't want.
What are some of your dating don'ts?

Confession #15: I'm guilty of talking about my last Ex one time too many--which prompted me to write the dating don'ts.

Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Let's Talk About Pep Season Finale

About Episode 8 (Season Finale):

Pep decides to take a major step with Tom-is this thing turning serious? Joumana's been disappointed by bad boys, now she's wondering: Has the right good guy been there all along? Markuann tries a change of tactics in pursuit of Kittie-will he find success trading in sexy-funny for lovey-dovey?

My Take:
First things first. I hate the show has come to an end. What's a single girl to do on a Monday night? Hmm. Maybe go out on a date of her own :)

You know I've been cheering for Tom every since they introduced him an one of the episodes. I'm so glad that Tom and Pep took the next step. Ooh, I rhymed. LOL Joumana might not be looking for something serious, but looks like something serious has found her. And what can I say, "Mr. Toe sucker" not only surprised Kittie, with his revelation, he surprised me too. Well, she could do worse. Just make sure her friends keep their shoes on, and she'll be alright. LOL

Overall, I enjoyed watching the whole show. I wasn't aware the show would end so soon. For season 2, if there is a season 2, they should expand it to an entire hour.

Hope you enjoyed my commentaries over the season of the show. I hope this won't be your last time stopping by the site.

So come on, did you see the finale? Let's talk about Pep.
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